Ok...Men and Women, please make up your minds. Do you want to be in a relationship or not? Do you NEED to be in a relationship or not? IF you find yourself out of a relationship more than in one.. If you're in a different relationship every year, and THIS ONE is THE ONE every year.... If you feel it necessary to explain why you are not in your relationship on social media... If as soon as you break up with your partner you are on statuses and in inboxes selling yourself to someone else... my guess is, you don't NEED to be in a relationship.
(Transparent moment: this was me once. I just wanted companionship, so if i felt the feeling was mutual.. i would jump in, heart first)
Just because you didn't cheat does NOT make you a good boyfriend or girlfriend. Yay, one point for you. It's deeper than that... How's your attitude? How do you react when you don't get your way? Do you express yourself and your feelings positively or hold anger In until you explode? You buy him/her things, but do you listen? Do you sacrifice? (hint: if it's not hard to give up, its not a sacrifice)
Once you realize that you are the common denominator in all of your failed relationships.. maybe you'll see that the change needs to happen in you... not in everybody you pursue. I can almost bet, once you fix you... you won't go through the same cycles you're used to.
No secure woman wants a man that just bashed his ex on social media, or ever for that matter, and is now looking for companionship. No secure man wants a woman who is always hollering that she doesn't need a man and then crying because she's single.
Hurt people, hurt people. It's OK to admit that you're hurt, but it is not ok to look for a companion to cover up the hurt that you or someone else caused.
TIP: Anyone who sees how unstable you are and still wants to be with you, is also unstable. That is not them "holding you down" that's you both being unstable together. People who are stable, recognize their value and what they bring to the table..and they will not diminish their value by connecting with someone who doesn't realize the same.
#getrealmovement #dontbebamboozled it's OK to be alone.. don't be scared of that. Being double minded is far worse.
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